Sparks Between Us
Virtual Therapy for LGBTQIA+ Adults Navigating Identity Exploration and Relationships
You’re trying to figure it out, but something feels off.
Whether you're questioning your sexuality, exploring your gender identity, or just trying to feel at home in the world, it’s overwhelming. You’ve worked hard—building your career, making connections—but still feel anxious, isolated, and unsure of who you really are. It’s hard to shake the fear of rejection or guilt about not fitting in.
Maya (she/her)** has known she’s asexual for a few years, but she rarely talks about it. Every time she’s tried, she’s been met with confusion, dismissive jokes, or advice to just keep dating—you’ll meet the right person eventually. Now, Maya avoids the topic altogether, even with her closest friends, because she doesn’t want to feel like the odd one out.
But the isolation is wearing on her. Her friend group is obsessed with dating apps, hookup culture, and recapping every awkward date or exciting new crush. Maya listens politely, nodding along, but inside, she feels like she’s on the outside looking in. She wants companionship and intimacy but without the sexual expectations that seem to come with it, and she’s scared no one will understand—or want that with her.
Lately, Maya’s been questioning her future: Will she ever find a partner who truly gets her? Is she destined to be alone? The fear of rejection keeps her from trying to date at all. Therapy feels like the place to start figuring this out. Maya hopes to explore her identity, confront the shame she feels, and learn how to advocate for her needs without fear of judgment.
Jordan (he/him), Alex (they/them), and Bri (she/her)** have built a loving, supportive polycule—but outside their home, it often feels like the world doesn’t see them as real. Jordan’s parents barely acknowledge Alex and Bri, treating them like "just friends." Bri’s family stopped inviting her to gatherings after she came out as polyamorous. And Alex, who already struggled with feeling like they belong, dreads the constant questions about when they’ll “settle down.”
The lack of family support weighs on all of them. They know their love is valid, but the rejection stings. Holidays feel lonely, social events bring anxiety, and they’re constantly navigating how much of their relationship to share. They worry: Are we strong enough to withstand this? How do we find belonging when our families don’t accept us?
Therapy can offer a space to process grief, manage anxiety, and build confidence in their chosen family. With support, Jordan, Alex, and Bri can explore ways to set boundaries, communicate their needs, and find peace in the life they’re creating together.
Kai (they/them)** has been on testosterone for years, and it’s been life-changing! But lately, they can’t shake the anxiety that it could all be taken away. With anti-trans laws on the rise and healthcare protections being rolled back, Kai worries: What if I lose access to my hormones? What if my legal documents are challenged? What if it’s not safe to exist as myself anymore? The fear sits in their chest constantly, making it hard to sleep, focus at work, or even plan for the future.
Therapy can’t change the political climate, but it can give Kai a place to process their fears, build resilience, and find ways to advocate for themselves while protecting their peace. Together, the therapist and them can explore coping strategies, community support, and ways to regain a sense of control in an unpredictable world.
If you're feeling overwhelmed by the uncertainty of the future, you don’t have to face it alone. Book a therapy session today and get the support you deserve.
** These vignettes are inspired by real experiences but are fictional composites, ensuring confidentiality while reflecting common themes faced by the LGBTQIA+ community.
Hey! My name is Emma Costa.
I am a Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Connecticut who offers virtual therapy to LGBTQIA+ adults who are navigating identity exploration and relationships. Therapy can help you navigate the uncertainty, heal from past pain, and create the space you need to explore your identity with confidence, so you can stop second-guessing and start living authentically.
Accepting new clients in June 2025.
